“Those who understand themselves can change their lives” – Michael Smolski
I hope somebody didn’t say this before. Regardless, that’s my firm belief.
And this is what The Four Tendencies is about. It’s about understanding yourself and others.
Now, this book was sent to me by Crown Publishing. What does that mean? Nothing at all. All reviews here are honest. Most are mostly positive as this page is about providing you with things that help rather than waste your time.
Gretchen Rubin is my favorite author. She wrote Better Than Before which I really resonated with. She’s my favorite author for many reasons but mostly because she understands that there is no right or wrong way, but simply whatever works.
The Four Tendencies is about understanding yourself and most importantly others.
If you learn how to do these two things, you will be the best version of yourself. You will win clients. You will persuade people. You will achieve more out of life than you ever thought possible.
And to be the best version of yourself, you need to understand what works for you.
Gretchen understands that no matter how much scientifically proven it is that a certain method works the best, that it might not work for you. And she goes in depth about it in her book.
But for some people, that will be a big no. Some people require big evidence. They question everything. And that perhaps sums up their personality perfectly.
For instance, I’m a rebel. I knew working without a planner worked so much better for me. I mean I had so many planners in my life that did not help me even though they helped millions. But everybody told me I need one. I tried it didn’t work. I also saw that working without one got me more things done. In this, I learned that as a rebel, I actually work better without a plan. And that made so much sense. What might be wrong as seen by others isn’t necessarily wrong when it comes to me.
And that’s what this book is about. It’s about separating what works for who. And knowing what works for you is essential because it simply confirms what you might have assumed or let you discover something you never tried because of people.
Gretchen breaks down the four personality types. Obliger. Rebel. Questioner. Upholder. All of these types have different tendencies, and this book will help you master these tendencies.
Depending on your personality, you might not like The Four Tendencies. It’s something that I would write. I know I am right, but I don’t often provide scientific evidence, even though I know I am fully right. This book is a bit like that. It lacks data. Data that isn’t needed. People might complain about it. Some might need it. Knowing that somebody else is like me is enough to allow me to do things the way I do them.
Whether you will end up liking this book or not, you will walk out with some new piece of information about you.